Thursday, October 18, 2012

Baby #2 - The Early Story

As I had mentioned in an earlier post, this has not been the easiest pregnancy so far. Here is the early pregnancy story:

August 29, 2012 ~ 

David and I have known for a while now that Sydney needs a sibling.

She is obsessed with other kids and LOVES babies. It is not unusual for her to just walk up to other kids her size and give them a hug and a kiss. We have been teaching her how to be gentle with babies for a while try to teach her to be loving. She is so ready to be a big sister. 

After much discussion and budgeting and planning, we decided to take the plunge in April. I stopped drinking alcohol (not that I'm a heavy drinker) and started eating healthier and the process began. It took us four and a half months to get pregnant with Sydney so I knew that it could take the same amount of time this go around. And it did. 

On Monday, August 13 I came home from work excited. I had just signed on to start a new job at David's company and we were leaving for Montreal in a couple of days. I started cleaning the house and feeding Sydney. David was working night shift and I knew that I could take the time to get some work done. I put Sydney to bed and called Dave to say hi. While we were talking, I took a pregnancy test out of curiosity. It was positive. I freaked out on the phone with David and told him that I was pregnant. He was so excited and  totally got the giggles.

The next day I confirmed it with a digital test. 

This was it. We were on our way to being parents again and our due date was April 23, 2013. We were so excited. 

We went on our trip to Montreal and Mont Tremblant. During that time we did a lot of walking and I carried Sydney in the Ergo carrier most of the time. I knew that I was pushing my body to the limit but I had no choice. With no family there to support us and lots going on I had to step up to the plate. 

When we returned from our trip I felt fine. Tired and a little nauseous but other than that ok. On Sunday afternoon things took a turn for the worse. I was feeling totally odd. I had bad cramps and I felt sick and didn't really want to do anything. We put Sydney to bed and sat down to watch a movie. At around 9pm I got up to use the bathroom, and when I did, there was blood. A lot of it. I was hysterical and didn't know what to do. I yelled for David and we both decided that it would be best to go to the ER.

We hadn't really shared the news of this pregnancy with all of our family yet so when we called David's sister Kendra to come stay with Sydney we knew we would have to explain it. She was very understanding. 

We arrived at the ER and I was checked in. Then we waited... for two and a half hours! It would not have been too bad.... if the room wasn't filled with so many crazies. It was a total freak show! They finally took us back to a room and we were told the doctor would be in shortly. It was a complete lie. We waited another two and a half hours in our room huddled together on one hospital bed trying to sleep while some woman in the room next to us gagged constantly. Gross. 

When the doctor arrived he was a total asshole. He had zero bedside manner and after doing a quick check he decided that he would send me in for an emergency ultrasound to "see if that baby is dead". Nice. Thanks captain sensitivity. 

The next morning we were called in to do an ultrasound at 9:30am. We were both exhausted from being at the ER the night before so neither of us were looking forward to it but we both wanted answers. I was in the room for almost an hour with the ultrasound tech. She did two types of ultrasound and then went to get David, Sydney and the doctor to go over results. When the doctor came in all I wanted to hear was that this baby was fine. I didn't get that. Apparently, the baby was on the borderline for development so they could not give us a definitive answer either way. Great. I would have much rather had them tell me that it was over. 

I went in that evening to see my GP. She set me up for two rounds of blood work this week and another ultrasound next week. We have no idea what is going on and both of us are incredibly nervous. In the meantime I am still feeling rough. I am nauseous but cramping and I am so very anxious. 

Who knows what the next two weeks will bring. We will either be celebrating or mourning. I should be 6 weeks 1 day today. It is not like we were very far along yet but it is still devastating. I am hoping for the best. 

August 31, 2012 ~

Today I am feel a little big more optimistic. 

I have been having blood drawn every other day to check my HCG levels. I have been getting so anxious so I finally gave in and called the doctor's office to try to get some of the results of my testing. When I called, I  was actually pleasantly surprised by some of the numbers. 

Aug 26 - 9600
Aug 28 - 12122
Aug 30 - 19626

According to most pregnancy and medical websites this is good.... but that is just me being an obsessive medical googler (is that even a word?). I want nothing more than to know exactly what is happening. I am fine with the outcome either way. I just don't like waiting. It is killing me!

September 5, 2012 ~

Relief. A healthy little heartbeat.

Today was incredible. We had our follow up ultrasound to check the viability of my pregnancy and we are so happy to have recieved good news.

The ultrasound tech knew we had been through a lot. She took a quick look at the screen and as soon as she could see a heartbeat she told me everything was ok. When she was finished taking all of the photos she needed she called David and Sydney in the show them that incredible little flicker. David was so incredibly relieved and Syd pointed at the screen and said "baby!".

The end diagnosis was a sub-chrionic hematoma. Basicaly, I had a bleed that didn't hurt the baby.

Now ~

Everything is obviously much better. We have a rented doppler and I am able to hear the babies heartbeat whenever I want to. It has really helped with my anxiety after everything we went through. We are so excited to meet this baby who we have lovingly nicknamed "Squishy".

Mrs. E


  1. I am happy to hear (read)that in the end all turned out to be fine. I hope it will stay this way and you will hold your baby in good health in April. Best of luck...
    Çemen (from Istanbul)

  2. Your doing awesome momma!!!
    Sorry to hear it was such a rough start ( I can relate on the bleeding and cramping, and the lack of compasion from doctors) but at least yours has a happy ending!!!
    Good luck!! I think of you often and look forward to reading your blog!!

  3. Sorry to hear it was such a scary start Steph! I'm wondering if Maybe you had twins to start? I have heard that that can happen.

  4. Thanks guys! Your support means a lot. Everything seems to be moving along perfectly now! I cant wait to start feeling little flutters and pushes soon!

  5. I am going through the exact same thing right now and it is so scary. I really hope my story turns you like yours.

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    1. Hi Becky,
      I really hope that all turns out well with you. The one thing I have learned through the whole process is that this is much more common than most people think. After talking with some friends I have discovered that quite a few of them went through a similar situation.
      Good luck

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  8. We haven't really had a chance to chat about the whole story, so I'm so glad that everything is fine, and I'm sorry you had to go through something so scary like that. HUGS!

    1. Thank you! I am so happy! I can't believe that we didn't sit down to go through the whole story! We need to ind some hang out time...